It’s no secret, some men are no good at texting. Heck, some of them are awful at just talking to women. You can’t blame them, the competition is pretty tough out there and there’s just too much pressure on men to win over a gal, even if most women aren’t looking for that all-around superman men tend to think every girl wants.
Okay now, let’s get back to texting. Or, to the point of this blog: flirting.
Men who don’t know how to flirt with a girl over text are usually the same guys that have problems flirting in real life. The good news is, everyone can learn how to flirt over text and these skills can translate to real-life situations easily.
FLIRTING VIA TEXT
For starters, getting the ball rolling via text in some ways is pretty similar to the real thing, it only differs in specific areas.
For some, it can even be easier because they can take the time to meditate on their next step (i.e. what to write next) before sending the message.
With that being said, there are a few tricks you can use to win a gal’s heart over text, you only have to play your cards right and keep it cool.
Keep calm and flirt on – When you want to lure in the girl you’re interested in, the best thing you can do is to maintain a light conversation with that lady.
Texting is a pretty convenient way to keep things going, however, it’s not the best platform to discuss serious topics, like ideologies, future plans, or societal differences, global hunger, and so on…
You see, while texting is a cool way to stay in touch, you don’t want to ramble about such serious topics because it will only make her want to quit. Why? Let’s be honest, a lot of us are living pretty busy lives and taking the time and the energy to type something meaningful in the form of a text sometimes’ just too much.
You’ve probably been there yourself.
On the other hand, if she’s an attractive girl, chances are, you’re not the only one texting her throughout the day. And guess which text will she respond to? The one where you’re asking her about her views on the systematic flaws of the current monetary system or the text about whether she’s a cat or a dog person? Don’t get us wrong, we’re not trying to say here that the girl is a bimbo, but leave those serious topics for later.
Instead, keep it light and keep it interesting. Don’t be afraid to ask her about her hobbies, stuff she’s interested in.
Keep it witty and fresh – Don’t kill your chances with dull “What’s up” and “WYD’” texts. Stay away from basic stuff. When you strike up a conversation with the gal you want to hook up with, always seek to “add value”, to at least, make her smile every time she sees your text.
Instead of empty words, try something fun, something witty. Put the “Whachadoin” in the bottom drawer and start the convo with something like: “I know you’ve been dying to speak to someone with at least half a brain all day. I think I can live up to that”.
Don’t forget, this is just an example. You don’t need to degrade yourself (if you think that stuff like this is degrading) just make sure to come up with something witty right from the start that’s in line with her style.
Don’t say more than you have to – Simply put, don’t drown her with your texts, no matter how hot she is. Over-texting will only lead to her abandoning the conversation before you can get anywhere with her.
Also, while keeping a bit of distance, you are signaling that there are other things going on with you and that her texts aren’t the only things that you’re looking forward to. This can make you more exciting. If there’s one thing women don’t like, that’s boring men.
So, to put all this into perspective, don’t send double texts. Always make sure you get a reply. If that doesn’t happen, make sure to wait till the next day to text again. Don’t rush. Over-texting only leads to failure.
Be a tease – Flirting, in general, should be fun. Especially flirting over text. Try to create some kind of tension – by some kind, we mean sexual.
What better way to create tension than by teasing her a bit? Yup, that’s right. Go ahead, go back to your elementary school days, give it all you got and tease her like there’s no tomorrow!
Don’t be a jerk, keep it fun and playful. Also, signal that you too are open for some fun and that she’s free to tease you as well.
For instance, when she says something childish, you could say. “Well, If you’d be my girlfriend right now, you’d get spanked real good”.
Of course, only be this provocative if you feel you can pull it off with her. If she’s more on the conservative side, you might need to adopt.
Flirt through questions – Questions that have a flirty nature are also your best friends to build a solid base for future plans with a gal.
However, these questions may work to your advantage better in a live setting or when you both have your camera on and can see each other’s face. Also, these questions work in your favor when the time is right. In other words, use them when things have escalated in the conversation to a new high.
For instance, when she laughs, just make an “innocent” comment, like “Wow, you look really sexy when you do that”, then, without waiting for her to give you an answer or before she can react, continue with a something random, like: “How good are you at kissing?”
Make sure you’re doing this with a straight face, with confidence. If you make her laugh or at least smile, You nailed it.
Tension, tension, tension – Don’t wait with building sexual tension. If you want something to happen, start to imply that you eventually want to end up in her bedroom right from the start. Otherwise, your chances of getting friend-zoned are pretty high.
However, by building sexual tension we don’t mean that you should act like a sexual predator or as a creep. Stay calm, confident, casual, and fun.
Keep it genuine and laid back because women can smell desperation from outer space. True story.
So, how to introduce that sexual tension we’re talking about? Why don’t you try misinterpreting what she says? Whenever she says something that can be misinterpreted as something sexual, just go ahead and misinterpret it.
It’s a fun way to get her familiar with the concept of you two ending up in bed.
Keep the ball rolling – This is important. No matter how good you get in flirting with her via text, sooner or later you’ll have to meet her in person, otherwise, she’ll get bored with your shenanigans no matter how witty you are.
With this in mind, remember, you should always work your way to actually meeting in person too. Yes, while it’s awesome to make her laugh when you two are texting, this won’t last long. Eventually, you’ll have to organize a meeting. Otherwise, she’ll stop responding to your messages after a certain point.
Use technology to your advantage – Nowadays, chances are, you are texting via a platform that’s also capable of sending links as well.
Sending a funny picture, video, your FB or IG pictures when they can help escalate the convo is a great way to draw her closer toward you. Just be smart with the content you’re sharing. Don’t go overboard with GIFs, videos and other stuff. Also, make sure that you’re sending stuff that she’s okay with seeing. Again, if she’s more on the conservative side, make sure to send appropriate content.
There you have it. Flirting via text isn’t necessarily hard, you just need to keep it cool and fun. Don’t be pushy, wait for her to reply.
Try to build sexual tension from the first moment but make sure you’re not creepy.
Ask questions and always try to add value to the conversation. Don’t be dull and boring.
Don’t stay put. If you want things to work, You’ll HAVE TO ASK HER OUT at some point.
And if she’s not getting the message and keeps turning you down, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, thank her for her time and move on. If things don’t work out, don’t sweat it. There are other fish in the sea.