When it comes to masturbating for males, even most men tend to think about it the same way – a good ole’ stroll in the park, nothing new, always the same, no thrills.
What if we tell you that there’s more to jerking off than what you’ve done so far? Have you ever heard of masturbation techniques for males?
Self-play is pretty common and pretty healthy, even though there are a lot of people out there who state the exact opposite.
To be more precise, there’s even some scientific evidence out there that says that nearly everyone (98 percent) will engage in at a certain point in their lives. That’s a lot of people.
On the other hand, it has been shown that masturbation can reduce the risk of developing prostate cancer in men, it can help people relieve stress, and it can also help with getting more rest.
So, before we dive into the “how” of things, let’s get a few facts clear.
To give a scientific definition of masturbation, we can say that it’s the act of sexual self-pleasure by stimulating the penis (in this case) or other erogenous zones, in most cases to the point of sexual climax which will result in ejaculation. All this, for the sole purpose of pleasure.
For the most part, jerking off is a solo act, however, it can be used as a part of foreplay or intercourse even together with a partner.
Self-play can also be an effective tool for stress relief, for dealing with anxiety and for sexual “training”.
SELF-PLAY TECHNIQUES YOU SHOULD TRY
As mentioned before, most men tend to think that there’s only one way to beat their meat. Well, gentlemen, that’s not true. There are many things and techniques you can use to spice things up and to get more bang for your buck. If you’re on the more adventurous side, you can add a few toys into the mix to get things going.
HOW ABOUT LUBE?
Simply put, using lube is pretty much a must when it comes to quality time alone. If your skin is sensitive, you might be better off using water-based lubes to stay away from irritation and possible infections.
LORD OF THE (COCK) RINGS
This might look a little frightening at first, but in reality, it’s easy to use and it even has a few benefits. For starters, it helps you stay erect because it allows the blood to flow to the penis but stops it from escaping. It can also help you perform better in bed and it allows you to get back to business a lot faster after ejaculation.
You can try standard rings and more fancy ones too, which even vibrate.
WHAT ABOUT A FLESHLIGHT?
Chances are good that your girlfriend has a few sex toys somewhere in her closet. Like it or not, these toys help both of you a lot to intensify the whole experience in bed and they also help her a lot to learn about the way she likes to make love.
You can also use sex toys for your joy. Try the fleshlight, for instance. It’s a popular toy which some men use as a whole while others only prefer it’s sleeve. Either case, it’s best used with water-based lube.
A good fleshlight is also anatomically correct, so it can help you with practicing clitoral stimulation when you’re doing the real thing, enabling you to cause even more pleasure to your partner.
This is one handy toy that’s meant to reproduce the sensation of receiving a blowjob. Not bad, right? This bad boy works by positioning itself o your member in a similar way as a partner’s mouth would do, while it moves similarly and can remind you of suction.
Using lube with this smart device will definitely take your game to the next level and will give you the ride of your life.
HOW ABOUT A VIBRATOR?
What if we told you that when you put a vibrator against your balls while you’re rubbing one out can take you places you never thought existed?
Yup, special vibrators for men can do that. However, you’ll need to buy it from a reliable company and you’ll need to get the right size.
As you explore the new possibilities, you may find yourself going from playing around with your member to messing around with your G-spot (yes, you have one too), which is in your prostate. If you learn how to stimulate this, you can even reach higher levels of joy you thought were possible. While this may require a lot of courage at the beginning for you, you should know that people who tried it say that it was worth the effort and the fuss.
We know that some of you don’t really like the idea of using vibrators for your pleasure but keep an open mind. It’s totally okay and who knows? Maybe you’ll experience something totally new. Maybe, as a result, you’ll take your game in the bedroom with your partner to a totally new level and you’ll introduce a whole arsenal of different sex toys to your sessions. You never know…
HOW ABOUT SHIFTING INTO SECOND GEAR INSTEAD OF SIXTH?
In other words, take it slower. Okay, when you’re looking for a quick way to get rid of some built up stress, it’s okay to beat your meat mercilessly, but when you have time to kill, take things slow with masturbation too. Experts say that it can even do good with your sex life too.
They say that men focus way too much on orgasm, and that shouldn’t be the alpha and the omega of sex neither masturbation. They say, by slowing down, they can feel every little stimulus better and as an end result, they can enjoy sex better.
Also, as a bonus, it can train them to gain better control over their mind and body thus training them to last longer in bed.
So, next time you’re about to rub one out, take your time and go slow. See how things feel. Maybe you’ll discover new sensations that you never knew existed. Maybe, jerking off slow is a totally new dimension for you that you’ll just want to explore more.
THE ART OF EDGING
Otherwise known as the start-and-stop technique, generally means that you masturbate and suddenly stop before you reach the “point of no return”. Once the sensations have subsided, you can continue beating your meat.
Edging is a good technique if you want to build up and prolong the pleasure you’re feeling and it can also help you a great deal in the bedroom too. Just like slowing down, edging can also help men to avoid premature ejaculation, and it can also help you gain better control over your sensations.
The more you learn about your body and its signals which lead to orgasm, the better you will become at controlling them. In return, you can last longer in bed and you can also improve the quality of your orgasms.
DON’T NEGLECT YOUR BALLS
Your testicles need love too. There are pleasure zones in them too, so feel free to explore them. Rub your testicles gently, play around with them, fondle them. This can help you have better orgasms, and at the same time, it will help with making you more comfortable with your partner touching those balls.
MASTER THE ART OF TOUCHING YOURSELF
Whichever techniques you use, whichever toy you throw into the mix, the key point here is to get more in tune with your body and the things you feel during sexual stimulation. Explore how your hand feels the best, experiment with different tempos and make sure that you enjoy every step of the process.
When you learn about your own body and sensations, you can learn to manipulate them and to have better control over them. This can come in handy in the bedroom and can also teach you how to achieve better orgasms.
As a bonus, when you learn about your erogenous zones, and when you are more aware of what causes you sexual pleasure, you can better communicate your desires with your partner too. This can go a long way in the bedroom since there won’t be unnecessary frustration between you two when both of you know your preferences, likes, and dislikes.
As you can see, there are loads of way you can change the “meat beating” experience and take it to a whole new level. With or without toys, edging or not, slow or fast, the key is to learn about your body and to explore your sexuality.
Don’t forget, masturbation is by no means a sin, but a great way to get in touch with your body better, a great natural sleeping aid, a great stress management method, and a healthy habit.
Regular self-play can have loads of benefits. Just don’t abuse it.
Keep it simple and in between normal limits. Once it takes over your life and it starts to cause problems in your everyday life, it’s better to seek professional help. Balance is the key. Jerking off is fun, but not to the point that you lose your job or your partner because of it.
Now, pop that lube and have some fun!