Let’s get the obvious out of the way right from the start: premature ejaculation is no fun and it’s pretty embarrassing. Not to mention, it can be pretty disappointing to our partners. Heck, sure it’s disappointing since it turns one of life’s biggest pleasures into one of the most embarrassing things a guy can imagine…
Because of the fear of premature ejaculation, guys have been looking for the answer to the question: how can a man last longer in bed? More importantly, how can a man last longer naturally, without any additional help that might require them to explain themselves to their partner (honestly, having to deal with premature ejaculation is just embarrassing enough)
Even though men are terrified by even the thought of premature ejaculation, professionals state that almost every guy will have to deal with it in their life, maybe only once, maybe on more accounts.
While knowing that there are others out there with the same problem can easy one’s anxiety, but still, the problem in the bedroom remains. So, how can a man last longer in bed?
ABOUT PREMATURE EJACULATION
Before we get into it, here’s some geeky stuff so you know a bit more about the phenomenon.
To be precise, a study involving 500 heterosexual couples involved suggests that the average time of vaginal sex from penetration to ejaculation was around 5.4 minutes.
This might sound okay, but recent studies and data suggest that nearly half of men empty their barrels around the two-minute mark and men who may get diagnosed with premature ejaculation usually finish within one minute of penetration, no matter how hard they try not to.
One of the worst things about finishing too soon is the fact that some guys feel they have absolutely no control over it.
So, the question begs to be answered: is there a fix for premature ejaculation?
TRICKS TO MAKE YOU LAST LONGER
Luckily, there are natural ways which can help you last longer and most of them are pretty simple and may have been under your nose the whole time.
- THRUST LESS
Have you ever thought about thrusting less and focusing a bit on sex a bit differently? There are tons of ways you can enjoy sex without thrusting like a jackrabbit.
How about massaging the tip of your member into her clitoral hood? This way, you’re stimulating her nerve endings in her vaginal entrance instead of going as deep as you can. Try pressing your penis against her G-spot.
These are just a few little tips you can try. You just need to know that it’s okay to slow things down when you’re about to hit the point of no return.
Sure, you can thrust, that’s the point of the whole thing, but that’s not the only thing you can do to cause her pleasure.
- GIVE EDGING A TRY
Practice makes perfect – train yourself to last longer by learning how to delay your orgasm. Start while you’re masturbating. Use the technique which is widely known as “edging” and is a fairly popular technique men use to avoid premature ejaculation.
Getting the hang of it is pretty easy, you just need to get yourself to the edge of an orgasm (to a point when you can still get your sensations under control), then suddenly stop jerking off so you can give your body a little time to get back to normal. Then repeat this a couple of times.
Edging helps you to train your body and brain to control what you feel during sex and masturbation more efficiently and can help you last longer.
Oh yes, speaking of masturbation, touching yourself before sex may also help you in this case.
- TRAIN YOUR LOVE MUSCLES
Work out your pelvic floor muscles. Your what? Professionally speaking, these are the muscles that help you lift up your testicles without the help of your hands. These are the muscles that lift your nuts to your guts, if you may.
Once you’ve located and isolated these muscles, learn how to expand and to contract them by tightening and holding them for 10 seconds before releasing them. Do this is sets of 10. This will result in better ejaculatory control and will also help you last longer in bed.
There’s actually a study (also from 2005) that found that 75 percent of men who performed these exercises improved erectile function, while according to another study, 61 percent of men were able to get rid of premature ejaculation problems thanks to pelvic floor muscle exercises.
- GET MORE CREATIVE IN BED
Don’t get comfy in one position and try thrusting till her eyes fall out of their sockets. Change positions, try out new ones. How can this help? Well, you can’t really thrust while you’re changing angles and positions. This will help you win time. Don’t forget, time’s your friend.
Also, when you get into positions that are a little harder to execute, this way, your mind tends to focus on keeping your balance and thus, enabling you to delay your orgasm even further.
You can also let her on top, where she can control both rhythm and depth.
- SHE SHOULD BE YOUR MAIN CONCERN
You should know, most women also need to receive clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. So, while you’re trying to delay yours, why not help make it happen for her? Get to work, whether with your mouth, finger, or toy, it’s all the same. Knowing that she had an orgasm may ease your stress.
- UTILIZE THE SQUEEZE AND WEAR A CONDOM (LIKE, DAAAAAAAAAAAAAA)
When you can feel that you’re about to reach orgasm, stop and squeeze right below the head of your member. Apply firm pressure on the urethra with your forefinger and thumb. Adding pressure here and focusing on it can push the blood out of your penis and can decrease the sexual tension you’re feeling. And such, it helps delaying your orgasm.
Also, by using a condom (you should be anyway), you can delay your orgasm. A lot of manufacturers use thick rubbers which will actually make your member less sensitive during sex.
These six natural ways will surely help you cure or at least delay premature ejaculation. These effective techniques are safe and easy to learn and will help you. However, If you’re still experiencing PE, don’t hesitate to get in touch with a professional. Most of the time, they can help you learn your body’s and minds mechanisms that are responsible for all this, and by learning how they work, you can get better control over your sensations.